Dating opposites

She’s just reacting to the biological programming of her brain, with the same result.

The final irony of the Northwest study is that despite the primary attraction values that each gender admits to – beauty and earning power – when their actual real-life choices are examined, both genders highly valued both traits!

“In other words, good looks was the primary stimulus of attraction for both men and women, and a person with good earning prospects or ambition tended to be liked as well,” said Eli Finkel, assistant professor of psychology at Northwestern.

“Most noteworthy, the earning-power effect – as well as the good-looks effect – didn’t differ for men and women.” So, in the end each side values the things that it criticizes the other for insisting upon.

They look past the potential dishonesty of an old photo and rail against the unfairness of a system that requires them to be beautiful. Despite what an individual woman might say or think, the majority of women are turned on by a man who has high earning potential.

Reference: Northwestern University (2008, February 14). What Men and Women Say and Do in Choosing Romantic Partners Are Two Different Matters.

Everybody has an opinion, including on your love life.

The implication of their comments is that THEY don’t judge men according to these rigid standards. A recent study by Northwestern University looked at what each gender values most in a mate. It’s no surprise that men have picked up on this tendency, and discussion threads have sprung up…like the one called “Where are the women not looking for Donald Trump? It’s hard not to wonder if these preferences, which are so prevalent and independent of other socioeconomic factors, are tied into each gender’s deep and primitive biological needs.

These women seem to be advocating an attraction process that looks at the more important inner traits and ignores the obvious shallow ones. Men were quick to admit the obvious: they want an attractive mate. What did they value the most in a potential life partner? • Do men seek out beautiful women because the most primitive parts of their brains read beautiful features (symmetrical facial features, large breasts, etc.) as signs of genetic health and fertility?

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