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For them, the solution is needs met but without letting the wife know.” Seku suggests both parties practice being open.
That is, “free and open to date other people, and connect organically.” According to Seku the best approach is when authenticity is key. Jeff Menzise, Doctor of Clinical Psychology and couples coach, is often referred and requested as a neutral party-mediator between couples considering opening up their relationship as a form of enhancement.
For me, it is not one with which I wish to participate. I do not wish to pass judgment on others’ relationships as I figure there are enough tea leaves for all.
What I would like to propose are a few rules that maybe the more mature crowd—including the grown and sexy set—can adopt for future positive social interactions.
In situations where people who are monogamous say ‘O.k., we’ll be able to work it out’ and their partner alludes to ‘I know what you’re saying, but I’m going to start seeing other people anyway,’ they typically do not succeed.” For those who present with a willingness to try open relating, their reasons vary but may often include incompatible sex drives.
Menzise says he has seen many situations where one partner feels inadequate in a sense of not being experienced enough or not lasting long enough such as with a wife who may have a higher sex drive.
“I’ve come to find out a LOT of women are open to being with another woman and having fantasies about another woman,” says Menzise of the marital threesomes.
In a number of cases, he shares, the male would then suggest another male become involved with his wife.
He’s not able to satisfy her and he’s literally decided to bring someone else in,” notes Menzise. Most people wouldn’t believe how common a practice this is with a relationship: A man literally finding another to have sex with their wife.
I am one who believes monogamy can be fulfilling and successful.
I also believe we all deserve to feel we have the power of making a choice.